Being married does not give the husband the right to abuse their wives. It may legally bind them together, and the male may think of his wife as property-but its not true. Marriage is suppose to be an equal, loving partnership and in the vows it even say, "Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live? (http://www.weddingplanninglinks.com/planning/traditionalweddingvows.html)". How can you make a vow before all your friends, family, and God that you will love and protect your partner-and then just start abusing her? These people have issues, and need to resolve them to have a happy relationship with their loves one. Domestic abuse is a series issue that needs to be solve. One thing that is helping or exposing domestic abuse are the movies that help people realize that it is a series issue-that the man does not have the right to beat his wife.
One film of domestic abuse is Julian Robert's movie "Sleeping with the enemy". In the beginning, she's very happy, but then things start to go wrong. She finds out that her husband is a control freak. He hurts her because of the sense of false power that it gives him. She finally has to fake her death just to get away from him; so he decide that if he can't have her, no one can.
There's another movie about a guy stalking a women, because he "loves" her. Its called "Stalking Laura" and you can actually watch the movie by going the the link below. It has Brooke Shields in it-if it effects anyone's decision to watch it. As you watch the movie, you see that she didn't encourage him in any way. They never dated, in fact she rejected him-and he just starts following her and popping out-which shows that women are NOT responsibly for their stalkers. She didn't asked for it as to what some people assume of the victims. Its never the victim's fault-even if they stay with their abusive partner, they have their own reasons. They might be too afraid to leave. They're ashamed or feel guilty and think that the abuse is their fault. They may have been isolated by the abuser-so they can't get help outside or they can't afford to leave. I believe that victims should never be blamed.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XhhFVDhv4g&feature=related
(again high light, right click, and google search)
I'm in a domestic abuse class here at UWO and I feel that its an awesome class to take. We have talked to people who work in the feild and an abuser that is taking a class to change his ways came in and talked to us. Sadly when you look at the statistcs and read some of the stories its terrifying and sickening to know that a human being could treat another in such a way.
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