In Search of the Elusive Orgasm responds

As an avid reader of romantic novels I have never thought that sex should be controlled by the man, or that women will be able to have orgasm every time they have intercourse.  The reason of course is that sex is now openly discussed.  Sex is advertise on TV, porn is easily access on the internet, cartoons like Family Guy and American Dad have vivid episodes hinting at sexually acts and behaviors.  Everywhere you look-sex, sex, sex.  What is it that makes our society so concern with sex?  Is it the economic perspective or it something deeper?  To many, sex is a pleasurable act and to others its a show of love.  It can be an emotional connection with another person-and isn't that what everyone wants?       

inspirational poems

I came across this website and I really like the poems.  They're very empowering and....true.  I especially like the poem called "I am a Woman" by Melin W.  It talks about not underestimating women and how they do contribute to the world "in life, in death, in famines and war".  Her poem also goes on about how age has give her wrinkles for being a survivor, and how with age she has learned that self-confidence is sex appeal.  The reason I like this poem is because it puts a positive spin on aging and its a very empowering piece of literature.  You can read the poem yourself on
http://www.inspirational-poems.net/feminist-poems
(high light link and right click "search google for...")

I would also recommend reading the other poems.  Each one talks about a different aspect of being a women and have their own voice.     


    

Women of Color and their Stuggle for Reproductive reading

I can not believe that the U.S.  or that white people were so afraid of black or any other colors raising against them, that they would force sterilization on women who could not understand or consent to it.  Some women even "volunteer" to do it to get health benefits-which shows how well they were treated.  It also shocked me that U.S. officials intentionally gave Native Americans blankets with infected small pox in the past.  Were they so afraid that the Natives would fight for their rights, that they had to condemn them to a disease-filled-life?  Another thing that stuck me in the reading was the quote, "the best way to hate a nigger is to hate him before he is born".  To judge and decide weather you hate a person before they're are even born, just because of their skin color is wrong.  If they do think that way and act upon their misguided hatred, they are just repeating the cycle of discrimination, and equality will never be possible in the land of the U.S.A.

If men could menstruate reading

Wow, I really think if men could menstruate, the whole view of it WOULD change.  It would be something to be proud of, a passage of rights to become a man.  Something so squeamish when you hear about it would turn into a claim of male power.  It might even overshadow the child bearing process -"giving birth only once" versus having pains every month.  But if men could menstruate, what a wonderful connection for understanding each others pain. 

Toys: What they Mean

Walking through the girls section at Target, Walmart- basically all stores and the aisles are filled with pink, princess, and barbie dolls.  What has happened to society that has narrowed down what girls are and want?  By giving them limited choices in toys- we as a society are denying the future generation the will to explore new things and the ability to break free from society's image, without fear of criticism.  We are limiting their "capacity of make-believe".  By pushing our image of the typical female or male onto children, we are continuing this cycle of gender rules.  We are encouraging them to act the stereotypes of their genders.

The princess and barbie doll is a phase in which most girls go through, and they get over it- but subconsciously what the toys mean remain-the make-up, appearance, dresses, the prince charming, the girly personality, and the impression that you have to be everything to be perfect.  Toys do influences people's outlook on life whether consciously or subconsciously.  Take Cindy Jackson for example.  She's referred to as the human barbie.  As a child she said she wanted to be a scientist, but when her dad died and gave her an inheritage, she used the money to get plastic surgery.  She model herself after the barbie doll and now leads a luxury life traveling the world and sharing her story.  Her story has also inspired other people to get plastic surgery.  There's even a living Ken doll name Miles Kendall.

For more information on Cindy Jackson, follow the link below:

http://www.cindyjackson.com/my-surgery/info_5.html
 (if link doesn't take you directly to page:  highlight link and right click mouse, and click search on google)

   
      

Thinking about Shakespeare's sister reading

I really liked this reading, because it lists all the practical and logical reasons why a women at that time wasn't able to write.  Females weren't allowed to go to school.  They were expected to marry earlier, have babies, and live their lives under their husband's rule.  Back then knowledge in a female was appalling.  Their opinion were ignored.  Males didn't want their wives to be smarted than them.  They didn't have any rights or freedoms that males did.  They couldn't let their creativity free, they were oppressed into a life that revolved around males and only males.  If I had to live in that life period, life would be unbearable.   I love reading, but to have that hobby snatched away and replace with house hold chores that were expected of women to handle, would be depressing.  If I couldn't go to school and learn or let my creativity free (your gift or skill)- I don't know what I would do.  

Learning is one of the most... beautiful thing in the world.  By learning, we get our knowledge of the world and form our opinions.  We socialize and let our opinions be known.   Its one way we establish our presence in the society.  To have your thoughts acknowledge is a matter of knowing your life has made an impact on the world.  And if I couldn't use me gift/skill/talent whether writing, drawing, dancing...etc. free-I would be denying who I was.  So I kind of understand why the fictional sister of Shakespeare killed herself in the end-she couldn't write.  It was her gift, her one passion in life- it was who she was and she was denied because of her gender.  She was in a way murder by society, because of its gender role way of life.  When her sex was found to be female, her life was already mapped out.